Taking It All in Stride
As a parent of a young child, there seems to be a lot of pressure to always do the right thing. Feed them the right foods, make sure they get enough sleep, make sure they are stimulated, but not over stimulated. They should be walking by this date, talking by that one, and so on and so on. It’s ok to feel that pressure. We want our child to grow up feeling they are doing great, and it’s up to us to get them started.
A parent needs to be careful placing the pressure she/he feels onto the child. It’s very easy to do. We show him frustration when he doesn’t eat his mushed peas and spits out his sweet potatoes. We teach her that she’s not competent at putting together a puzzle when she gets frustrated and we finish for her. It’s so easy to, and we have all put our fears of one aspect of parenting on our child.
Sit down with yourself when you are getting frustrated. Tell yourself that every single child on this earth learns at a different pace. If she’s not walking by two, and your pediatrician has given you a clean bill of health, it’s okay. Don’t let the world determine who your child is by its standards. Let you child know and feel how much you love him by being happy that he’s trying his best. They read our feelings so much better than we know, so help her to know she is loved not by the standards that have been set for her, but by the pride you feel in her when she’s trying her best.